The
Indian culture celebrates marriage as a
sacrament (Sanskara), a rite enabling two
individuals to start their journey in life
together. In a Hindu wedding, the multiplicity
of creation becomes possible when spirit
(Purush) unites with matter (Prakritti).
The Hindu wedding lays emphasis on three
essential values: happiness, harmony, and
growth.
The institution of marriage can be traced
back to Vedic times. The ceremony should
be held on a day in the "bright half"
of the northern course of the sun.
Months before the wedding an engagement
ceremony known as Mangni is held. This
is to bless the couple, who are then given
gifts of jewelry and clothing by their
new family.
Jaimala (Exchange of Garlands)
The couple exchanges garlands as a gesture
of acceptance of one another and a pledge
to respect one another as partners.
Madhupak (Offering of Yogurt
and Honey)
The bride's father offers the groom yogurt
and honey as the expression of welcome
and respect.
Kanyadan (Giving Away of the
Bride)
The father of the bride places her hand
in the groom's hand requesting him to
accept her as an equal partner. The concept
behind Kanyadan is that the bride is a
form of the goddess Lamxi and the groom
is Lord Narayana. The parents are facilitating
their union.
Havan (Lighting of the Sacred
Fire)
The couple invokes Agni, the god of Fire,
to witness their commitment to each other.
Crushed sandalwood, herbs, sugar rice
and oil are offered to the ceremonial
fire.
Rajaham (Sacrifice to the Sacred
Fire)
The bride places both her hands into the
groom's and her brother then places rice
into her hands. Together the bride and
groom offer the rice as a sacrifice into
the fire.
Gath Bandhan (Tying of the Nuptial
Knot)
The scarves placed around the bride and
groom are tied together symbolizing their
eternal bond. This signifies their pledge
before God to love each other and remain
faithful.
Mangalphera (Walk Around the
Fire)
The couple makes four Mangalpheras around
the fire in a clockwise direction representing
four goals in life: Dharma, religious
and moral duties; Artha, prosperity; Kama,
earthly pleasures; Moksha, spiritual salvation
and liberation. The bride leads the Pheras
first, signifying her determination to
stand first beside her husband in all
happiness and sorrow.
Saptapardi (Seven Steps Together)
The bride and groom walk seven steps togehr
to signify the beginning of their journey
through life together. Each step represents
a marital vow:
First step: To respect
and honor each other
Second step: To share
each other's joy and sorrow
Third step: To trust
and be loyal to each other
Fourth step: To cultivate
appreciation for knowledge, values, sacrifice
and service
Fifth step: To reconfirm
their vow of purity, love family duties
and spiritual growth
Sixth step: To follow
principles of Dharma (righteousness) Seventh
step: To nurture an eternal bond of friendship
and love
Jalastnchana (Blessing of the
Couple)
The parents of the bride and groom bless
the wedded couple by dipping a rose in
water and sprinking it over the couple.
Sindhoor (Red Powder)
The groom applies a small dot of vermilion,
a powdered red lead, to the bride's forehead
and welcomes her as his partner for life.
It is applied for the first time to a
woman during the marriage ceremony when
the bridegroom himself adorns her with
it.
Aashirvad (Parental Blessing)
The parents of the bride and groom give
their blessings to the couple. The couple
touches the feet of their parents as a
sign of respect.
Menhdi (Henna Ceremony)
The traditional art of adorning the hands
and feet with a paste made from the finely
ground leaves of the Henna plant. The
term refers to the material, the design,
and the ceremony. It is tradition for
the names of the bride and groom to be
hidden in the design, and the wedding
night is not to commence until the groom
has found both names. After the wedding,
the bride is not expected to perform any
housework until her Menhdi has faded away.
Mangalasutra (Thread of Goodwill)
A necklace worn specifically by married
women as a symbol of their marriage.